3 steps to become a new you in the new year

If you focus on results, you won’t see change.  But if you focus on change, you will see results

In my experience, many people do not achieve their New Year’s resolutions because they don’t execute a high quality strategy to do so.   After having worked with tens of thousands of people as a teacher, trainer and coach, I have found that there are ultimately three steps to making sure you actually resolve what you set out to in the new year.

Step 1:  Create a big enough reason to follow through

The second mistake people make is that they don’t add leverage to their mission.  If your New Year’s resolutions mean more to you, then you are more likely to follow through on them.

To create the highest amount of meaning for your resolutions, I suggest linking them to your mission in life.  If you don’t know what your mission in life is, then I encourage you to begin with the questions below:

Define your life purpose

  • Who needs you to love and care for them? (Name at least 3 people)
  • What specific experiences do you want to have in your life?
  • What do you want to learn more about in your life?
  • What skills do you want to master?
  • How do you want people to remember you?
  • In summary, what is your duty, responsibility, and calling?

Consider how your health status may limit or support your life purpose

Reflect on the questions above while considering how your New Year’s resolution might help protect your ability to enjoy life.

  • For example, will any of life’s experiences be as fulfilling if you have crippling joint pain, and tired muscles?
  • Are you willing to create a higher standard for your physical fitness to prevent physical ailments from depriving you of your ability to enjoy life?

It’s these kinds of thoughts that create the leverage necessary to heighten your commitment to your New Year’s resolution.

Step 2:  Set behaviour goals, not outcome goals

People will set goals such as losing 20 pounds, but will not have a clear and concise plan for how to get there. This can lead to frustration.  I would encourage focusing more on the factors that are within your direct control.

For example, commit to exercise three times a week, and eating well 80% of the time.  If you follow those behaviours, you will eventually experience the desirable outcomes.  However, if your focus was to lose 20 pounds in one month, you could do everything right but then feel like you failed because your target had an unrealistic time frame, and you only lost 10 pounds that month, rather than 20.  As a wise man once said, “If you focus on results, you won’t see change.  But if you focus on change, you will see results.”

Step 3:  Create accountability

Most people do not follow through on their New Year’s resolutions because they fall asleep at the wheel, and slip back into their old habits.  Accountability to a friend, family, co-worker, or even coach in the area of fitness and health will greatly increase your chance of success.

Being accountable to someone else will increase your adherence to your resolution, and greatly improve your chance of success.  For example, if you are feeling tired and unmotivated, it’s quite possible that you might decide to skip exercise for that day.  However, if you have an appointment to meet with a workout buddy or a fitness trainer, then you are more likely to go regardless, just so that you don’t let them down.

Let’s face it, if you had the self motivation, you’d likely be where you want to be right now.  Being accountable to someone else will motivate you far beyond what you would do on your own.

For increased accountability, consider the following options:

  • Commit to a workout buddy once a week
  • Commit to an exercise class, martial arts class, or a sports team
  • Commit to a dietitian to make sure you follow through on your eating strategies, and to help you overcome obstacles
  • Commit to meeting with a fitness trainer on a weekly basis to assess your progress, and guide you through proper progression in your exercise routine

If you would like to meet up with me to set you up for success in 2019, please contact Laura Gill at 416.350.5900 ext. 6939, or email lauragill@medcan.com. If you book your Annual Health Assessment between January 9 and January 31, you will be entered for a chance to win your choice of one of the following add-ons: 10 personal training sessions; Liver Health Assessment; or Genetics and Genetic Counselling. 

You may also be interested in: